because i quit my hellacious job to work part time and study for the LSAT, I also get to head back to my family's cape cod house and get a little break. pictures to follow
Tuesday, July 30, 2013
beach vacay round 2
so in my absence, I forgot to report on my absolutely wonderful trip to the beach at cape cod with my high school best friend, complete with a nice trip to boston to see my old roommate.
Monday, July 29, 2013
i know its common knowledge i love lana del rey, but this is a gem
http://www.buzzfeed.com/louispeitzman/life-affirming-lana-del-rey-lyrics
thanks as always buzzfeed
thanks as always buzzfeed
Sunday, July 28, 2013
going dark, let's be real, we all do it
I am aware that it has been months since I have posted on this blog, so I am aware of the lack of excitement its provided to the public (not that I really assume it does in the first place, but especially not so now). I will be back and blogging in full force, mainly due to my current lack of a full time job (a story for later) and my desire to avoid LSAT studying.
However, I am also going to use this post to address the entire concept of "going dark". This is a staple millennial problem. Our plugged in lifestyles mean that if you forget about your various social networking obligations, you fall behind on your email, you generally fail to respond to text messages, and other forms of communication that otherwise, you would have responded to in an immediate manner, people assume you've gone dark. When you start to notice a friend is less present in your group, whether it be social or otherwise, you refer to them by saying they've "gone dark".
I have been involved in a nonprofit organization that is entirely volunteer run, and many of its board members refer to "going dark" as "going out into the ether" because they fall behind on emails, participate less in projects, and generally fail to take the initiative volunteer work requires. I was recently one of these people that fell out of touch, both for this organization and generally. Sometimes life gets in the way, and quite often not in a good way.
In my own experience, I have found that mostly, when we go dark, it is because we are burnt out otherwise, and being plugged into the world seems daunting. For those who's hearts are in the right places, going dark often incites concern, and they reach out to make sure that everything in your life is okay. Sometimes, it really isn't. Sometimes, it is simply that your energy is used up by the time you get to your vast network of obligations.
What I learned about going dark, and its subsequent relationship with whatever is going on in your life, is that perhaps going dark shouldn't become the last resort it is now, the thing that incites concern or causes someone to judge you for not being able to handle your life. Perhaps it can become something of a choice, before you get to a point where you are so burnt out that being so plugged in gives you more anxiety than Lindsay Lohan when her cocaine stash is kaput. Maybe going dark occasionally, and for short periods of time, is something that we should strive to do to avoid burning out completely. Of course, as a millennial myself, and a person that tends to constantly bite off more than I can chew, I know burnout is inevitable. And maybe this is more a post for myself than anyone else. But shutting off my phone and my computer for an hour while I read a book every day is a useful pursuit. At first it was useless, because I just couldn't wait to turn my phone back on and see what was going on. But now, it actually helps, and I'm ready to return to the world.
Being constantly plugged in shouldn't always be considered a bad thing. Our generation is able to achieve things no other generation has because of our constant communication via many different forms of technology. But knowing how to regulate that for your own sanity is probably a decent skill. Hopefully, my tendencies to go dark (I know, they are high now), will be less now that I know how to shut down, even when I may not actually want to.
However, I am also going to use this post to address the entire concept of "going dark". This is a staple millennial problem. Our plugged in lifestyles mean that if you forget about your various social networking obligations, you fall behind on your email, you generally fail to respond to text messages, and other forms of communication that otherwise, you would have responded to in an immediate manner, people assume you've gone dark. When you start to notice a friend is less present in your group, whether it be social or otherwise, you refer to them by saying they've "gone dark".
I have been involved in a nonprofit organization that is entirely volunteer run, and many of its board members refer to "going dark" as "going out into the ether" because they fall behind on emails, participate less in projects, and generally fail to take the initiative volunteer work requires. I was recently one of these people that fell out of touch, both for this organization and generally. Sometimes life gets in the way, and quite often not in a good way.
In my own experience, I have found that mostly, when we go dark, it is because we are burnt out otherwise, and being plugged into the world seems daunting. For those who's hearts are in the right places, going dark often incites concern, and they reach out to make sure that everything in your life is okay. Sometimes, it really isn't. Sometimes, it is simply that your energy is used up by the time you get to your vast network of obligations.
What I learned about going dark, and its subsequent relationship with whatever is going on in your life, is that perhaps going dark shouldn't become the last resort it is now, the thing that incites concern or causes someone to judge you for not being able to handle your life. Perhaps it can become something of a choice, before you get to a point where you are so burnt out that being so plugged in gives you more anxiety than Lindsay Lohan when her cocaine stash is kaput. Maybe going dark occasionally, and for short periods of time, is something that we should strive to do to avoid burning out completely. Of course, as a millennial myself, and a person that tends to constantly bite off more than I can chew, I know burnout is inevitable. And maybe this is more a post for myself than anyone else. But shutting off my phone and my computer for an hour while I read a book every day is a useful pursuit. At first it was useless, because I just couldn't wait to turn my phone back on and see what was going on. But now, it actually helps, and I'm ready to return to the world.
Being constantly plugged in shouldn't always be considered a bad thing. Our generation is able to achieve things no other generation has because of our constant communication via many different forms of technology. But knowing how to regulate that for your own sanity is probably a decent skill. Hopefully, my tendencies to go dark (I know, they are high now), will be less now that I know how to shut down, even when I may not actually want to.
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